Today’s Story September 12th, 2013

I want to write because I want to write. Plain and simple. Words help me get my emotions out. Their like a gateway. A gateway to my ocean of feelings. (I figured, if the rest of this post and all the others are going to be deep, honest, and in tune, than the least I can do is start writing all the words that spew outta my mouth **heart, no matter how cliché my feelings/words may be.)

With that sad, I wanted to try a few things. I wanted to try to write down stuff I learned for the day. I wanted to try and write down things that made me feel good, things I did for other people, things I did for myself, and I knew it would bode well, for tonight. But I realized that, I wanted to write these things because this is how I’m feeling right now. Tomorrow night I may want to write about something totally different. Or nothing at all. But that’s okay.

Because, I’m here to write because I want to. Because I want to. I was trying to force out a blog earlier on hard work and why I think we as a society need to change the perception and understanding of this term. I wanted to stress my feelings on this term because I think handwork is a good thing. I think the problem is that we think handwork is tiresome, we assume it is tough, and anything tiresome and tough cannot be fun or enjoyable right? If somethings not fun or enjoyable then how the hell can we be amped about it?

Work isn’t fun. Work is tiresome. But if you’re reading this, than you know that “work” can be fun, it can be awesome, it can be exhilarating and sheer elation, to say the least. As long as your doing something you love.

We as entrepreneurs, we as life hackers, go-getters, adventurers, non-conformists, bad-asses are hear to prove to everyone, the world, and ourselves, that work and play can go hand and hand happily. It’s okay to do things you love. You should do things you love. You are here for a reason. Find out what that reason is. Let your life be an exploration, a complete perpetual search for yourself, your talents, your passions and your dreams. Let these passions and dreams steer you one way to the next always chasing what we all long for, happiness.

Because when you’re trying to make a better “you”, you’re making a better world.

The world’s a big place. There’s a lot to learn. There’s a lot do. Let’s start somewhere. Let’s start where we are, right now.  Let’s start running this world a little differently. Let’s take life at a different pace. Let’s treat it like trail running where we can fly aimlessly through a foreign woods, side stepping road blocks, jumping over obstacles, and stopping whenever we please to take in all the beauty around us and absorb the world at its finest. Let’s walk up hill and sprint down, because it’s more efficient to save your energy. Let’s take the tough parts in strides, let’s do it with a partner, let’s do it alone, there’s always plusses and minuses to everything, so let’s just do what feels right.

I’ve had trouble identifying what feels right in my life lately. I tried getting up early, I tried going to bed late, I tried eating dinner with others, I tried enjoying some solitude.

What I’ve found is not what I expected, but what I already knew.

I like different things.

I like different ways.

Some days I enjoy some things, and other days I don’t. I can’t make a plan about it, because I lose the passion for the plan too soon after its made, because my passions change, I change, everything changes.

So I decided just to write tonight. To not list out what I’m doing or for how long I’m doing it, but to just do it, because it feels right. Because I like my emotions on the page. Because it makes me feel right. It makes me feel at peace.

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Do You. Do it Now.

“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination”
–Carl Rogers

Finalize Campaign. Click. Boom. Screenshot. Add to Feel Good Box. Save. Life–> officially changed forever.

I’ve been told.

I’ve been told to make a plan, stick to it, and make it happen. I’ve been told to set a goal, set a date, and watch it come true. I’ve been told not to set a goal. I’ve been told to merely head off in a direction you wish and let your course change as you go. I’ve been told to view your mission in life as a direction, not a destination.

I just learned today that Christopher Columbus sailed in a Westerly direction. He didn’t sail for a destination, but he aimed in the direction of one.

What does this all mean?

Do what you love. And do it now.

Plans work for people. Flexible plans work for flexible people. Goals work for people. Goals limit other people.

I’m happy when I’m doing things I love. When I’m happy I help others. I bring them up. I’m a lifter-upper. In order to help others, you need to help you.

So Why Don’t I Do Things I Love All the Time?

Sounds simple doesn’t it. I’ve found that one of my hugest struggles is doing things at the right time. It’s not that I prefer to put things off, but I find I often convince myself that if I only set aside a chunk of time or if I only plan to give myself half a day tomorrow, then I could do things better, like bang out this design project, or start back up with code academy everyday.

When I think about this perspective in terms of business I laugh at it. If this were the correct mentality, than there would be no such terms as “beta version” or “MVP”. Everyone would wait to pull the red curtain to unveil their perfectly finished product. We know this isn’t the case. Because we know this doesn’t work. It makes better sense to create the “thinnest possible product first and then iterate and develop it.”

Starting at the core is essential.

I’ve done this with my mobile startup. In fact I’ve done it so well I still get squeamish explaining the raw functionality of it to users. But why haven’t I done this in my life?

I downloaded the app Lift after reading this article about practicing habits daily to make them stick. For those of you who have Lift, it’s pretty effing awesome to hit that big √ mark and watch it turn bright green huh?! Yeah, so awesome that it makes you want to add tons of habits just so you can check them all off every night.

Well that’s what I did. Except. I didn’t reap the satisfaction of checking them all off. I got down and pondered at my failure to even check half of them off. I wondered where I went wrong.

I failed at going to bed by Midnight and I even failed at going to bed by 1 am. That was my back up. How did that even happen?

I tried to break it down and when I looked at the days I failed I recalled the things I did those nights..Finished the book “Life is What I say it Is” …Fine-tuned a blog post …Added a “Feel Good Box” to my website…

All these things were pretty awesome. And I don’t regret doing them. I also don’t regret going to bed late. My creative juices were flowing and I had some great motivation to bang out these projects.

I found a flaw in the habits I set up for myself. Not only was I trying to do too much at once, I was trying to do things that didn’t benefit me. Maybe going to bed early helps you get up at the crack of dawn, eat breakfast listening to the pidgeons and jump on an early train for work. But for me, staying up late helps me clear my head, zone in on my focus, and bang stuff out.

I realize I needed to start making habits that worked for me. That benefitted me.

I went back to the core.

What was the core in my life?

I thought back to my list of values. Connecting– feeling connected to people positively. Family, friends–> embracing human qualities, laughter, trust, love, listening and feeling passionate…Continued Growth– being a student of life, helping others and being around others that elevate me, meeting new people, opening up to new experiences……

When I zoned in on these I asked why I came up with them in the first place. What they meant and how they helped. I realized that my end goal in life is to achieve success. And success to me is now valued by happiness. These values are what brings me happiness. Sticking to these and letting them be injected into my life, into my business, is what keeps me on my path towards success.

In efforts to stick to my values, and stay true to myself I reflect on myself, my wants and needs as a person, my dreams and goals and do things that will help get me there. A new habit for me is to not let perfect be the enemy of “good enough”. By waiting around I miss out on opportunities. I have a draft sitting in my Gmail to an investor in Cali. I’m scared to send it as is. I’m scared it’s not good enough. But you know what’s worse? Him not receiving anything. It’s time I start not only doing things I love, but start doing them now.

Life’s too short to only live out your dream(s) for a small duration of it. Do it now. Do it all the time.

And on that note– I’ve just completed my indiegogo campaign to get my butt to Nicaragua to make a positive difference globally.

No more waiting around. “Do You. Do it Now.”

–KJ<>

A Letter to Nicaragua

An emotional response to Founder’s Anonymous Article

I’m writing this from the third story of a science building. A place where I came (hode up, 1,2– 4 years ago!) I was a freshman at Stonehill College. I was in a communications class. It had something to do with a word that started with “V” and I got a 90 on one test. I slept most of those classes– I was very tired from early mornings of hockey (where I didn’t play but fought to practice with the team in efforts to prove myself, in hopes to one day earn a roster spot– side note: achieved, spring 2011).

I was working with a girl– she had become a good friend years later. Can’t even remember her name now, its so pathetic.

Now I’m here.

no girl. no partner. no team. no group. same campus. same building. same place. different feeling.

I wrote a paper on place in a sophomore year or wait freshman year Lit class (spring semester). About, how the feeling of place can change when dealing with the same “physical” space. I thought I understood it. but I guess I never did, until now.

Scary how a place can mean such different things to you one day versus another.

Back then I actually feel close to where I am now, in this place, as opposed to the couple or so times I came across this same space, during the years.

I was vulnerable. A freshman. Didn’t have many friends. And felt uncomfortable about the whole situation. Still having that longing homesick feeling that seemed to not go away.

Right now I can relate.

It’s my first time back on campus as an ‘officially’ graduated student. I’m living with a friend who has CP and I will be his PCA (personal care asst.) for some time (assumed the year but pending how well this first week goes, haha, who knows– Just kidding! It will go great, but pending the successes of other things in my life, I will take it week by week).

My goals have been three fold– come here, and 1. Enjoy living with Jamey, an awesome kid and a brilliant motivator. I know I can learn a lot from the experience and I am positive we will have a great time together 2. Promote Squirr3l– the new mobile social network I recently launched, and 3. Utilize my time and resources efficiently to build a branding company I’m collaborating with a life coach on.

Coming back I don’t feel as though I belong. 

I feel out of place. I don’t know all the people. The people I did know here are all gone, and I feel like an old loner.

So I searched all campus for a place to sit down with my MacBook, kick off the flip flops, cross my legs, enjoy a view and do-up a kick ass logo for my brother’s ex CFO’s beer label.

And here i am.

And I still feel lonesome– felt– until– i jumped on the internet.  I read this blog and it brought me back to the sense of community and the importance of having people to connect with that allows you to elevate one another.

What does Elevate one another mean?

“Elevate one another” Noun: 1. bring out the spiritual, physical, and emotional “best” feelings through positive connection, interaction, and collaborative mind/idea sharing. 2. Promoting and supporting personal growth & development. 3. Sharing Awesomeness.

Seeing Marcella’s little picture in her post, reading this article, thinking back to that G+ hangout with the TPV gang! I realized I have my community and I always will. Through some entrepreneurial outreach, long hours of designsurfing, bravado and some good ol’ serendipity, I recently found myself in an awesome online little clique of life coaches, entrepreneurs, founders, or what I like to call: thinkers and connectors.

Us idea makers connect through emails, posts, comments, sharing articles, ideas, and Skype seshes (when we’re lucky). Yeah, it’s not always planned but we know we can rely on one another when in need. I’m not scared anymore to tap into my network and I love knowing that a few words from a good friend can ease my loneliness and make me feel “at home” from this virtual desk and “remote lifestyle”.

This is just one wall of difficulty I’ve faced.

Now I’m plowing through it and facing my beast. And I’m not doing it alone =)

Shout out to my “cluster of comfort”. They have an idea who are they are;)

“When idea’s collide, people are made”

–KJ<>