“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination”
Finalize Campaign. Click. Boom. Screenshot. Add to Feel Good Box. Save. Life–> officially changed forever.
I’ve been told.
I’ve been told to make a plan, stick to it, and make it happen. I’ve been told to set a goal, set a date, and watch it come true. I’ve been told not to set a goal. I’ve been told to merely head off in a direction you wish and let your course change as you go. I’ve been told to view your mission in life as a direction, not a destination.
I just learned today that Christopher Columbus sailed in a Westerly direction. He didn’t sail for a destination, but he aimed in the direction of one.
What does this all mean?
Do what you love. And do it now.
Plans work for people. Flexible plans work for flexible people. Goals work for people. Goals limit other people.
I’m happy when I’m doing things I love. When I’m happy I help others. I bring them up. I’m a lifter-upper. In order to help others, you need to help you.
So Why Don’t I Do Things I Love All the Time?
Sounds simple doesn’t it. I’ve found that one of my hugest struggles is doing things at the right time. It’s not that I prefer to put things off, but I find I often convince myself that if I only set aside a chunk of time or if I only plan to give myself half a day tomorrow, then I could do things better, like bang out this design project, or start back up with code academy everyday.
When I think about this perspective in terms of business I laugh at it. If this were the correct mentality, than there would be no such terms as “beta version” or “MVP”. Everyone would wait to pull the red curtain to unveil their perfectly finished product. We know this isn’t the case. Because we know this doesn’t work. It makes better sense to create the “thinnest possible product first and then iterate and develop it.”
Starting at the core is essential.
I’ve done this with my mobile startup. In fact I’ve done it so well I still get squeamish explaining the raw functionality of it to users. But why haven’t I done this in my life?
I downloaded the app Lift after reading this article about practicing habits daily to make them stick. For those of you who have Lift, it’s pretty effing awesome to hit that big √ mark and watch it turn bright green huh?! Yeah, so awesome that it makes you want to add tons of habits just so you can check them all off every night.
Well that’s what I did. Except. I didn’t reap the satisfaction of checking them all off. I got down and pondered at my failure to even check half of them off. I wondered where I went wrong.
I failed at going to bed by Midnight and I even failed at going to bed by 1 am. That was my back up. How did that even happen?
I tried to break it down and when I looked at the days I failed I recalled the things I did those nights..Finished the book “Life is What I say it Is” …Fine-tuned a blog post …Added a “Feel Good Box” to my website…
All these things were pretty awesome. And I don’t regret doing them. I also don’t regret going to bed late. My creative juices were flowing and I had some great motivation to bang out these projects.
I found a flaw in the habits I set up for myself. Not only was I trying to do too much at once, I was trying to do things that didn’t benefit me. Maybe going to bed early helps you get up at the crack of dawn, eat breakfast listening to the pidgeons and jump on an early train for work. But for me, staying up late helps me clear my head, zone in on my focus, and bang stuff out.
I realize I needed to start making habits that worked for me. That benefitted me.
I went back to the core.
What was the core in my life?
I thought back to my list of values. Connecting– feeling connected to people positively. Family, friends–> embracing human qualities, laughter, trust, love, listening and feeling passionate…Continued Growth– being a student of life, helping others and being around others that elevate me, meeting new people, opening up to new experiences……
When I zoned in on these I asked why I came up with them in the first place. What they meant and how they helped. I realized that my end goal in life is to achieve success. And success to me is now valued by happiness. These values are what brings me happiness. Sticking to these and letting them be injected into my life, into my business, is what keeps me on my path towards success.
In efforts to stick to my values, and stay true to myself I reflect on myself, my wants and needs as a person, my dreams and goals and do things that will help get me there. A new habit for me is to not let perfect be the enemy of “good enough”. By waiting around I miss out on opportunities. I have a draft sitting in my Gmail to an investor in Cali. I’m scared to send it as is. I’m scared it’s not good enough. But you know what’s worse? Him not receiving anything. It’s time I start not only doing things I love, but start doing them now.
Life’s too short to only live out your dream(s) for a small duration of it. Do it now. Do it all the time.
And on that note– I’ve just completed my indiegogo campaign to get my butt to Nicaragua to make a positive difference globally.
No more waiting around. “Do You. Do it Now.”